Tuesday, September 28, 2010

The importance of communication

Communication can build or break our family

“The tongue has the power of life and death.” (Proverbs 18:21). Communication is powerful. People often use kind words and kind actions to their church mates, work mates and friends but speak very roughly with their families. Our words can destroy the people we love in our family. People often become what we say they are. If we say our children are useless, they become useless. If we say our husbands are hopeless, indeed they will become hopeless.

Many families are breaking down because of a negative communication between father and mother or between parents and children. Family members of all ages end up feeling lonely and each one does their own thing apart from the rest of the family. God gave us families so that we can all grow to our maximum potential but the family is often a place where both children and adults are verbally abused.

1. The parents are always talking and never listening to their children. Children are given names that communicate poverty, hatred and anger. When a child is told that they are dull like their late grandmother who never stepped into a classroom, they are totally heartbroken and their chances of doing well at school are limited because the words will stick with them for the rest of their lives.
2. Teenagers think that their parents are too old fashioned and so cannot tell them anything, or they ignore their parents because they are not educated as much as children today. On the other hand parents think teenagers are a wild group who do not know what they are doing, and they are heading for disaster.
3. Wives are treated as objects; therefore anything can be said to them without caring much about how they feel.
4. The husband thinks that his wife is taking sides with children and he feels rejected.

However, the verse from Proverbs 18:21 does not only say that the tongue kills. The tongue also has the power of life! Words can kill or they can give life. Good communication can build and bless our families. If we say good things to our family members they will change for the better and become what we say they are. Let us always guard our tongues and use them to bless others not to curse them. “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”(Proverbs 16:24)

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